Is that a valid expectation?
As we end a decade full of disruptions in every fragment of our lives – in how we live, work, eat, sleep, communicate, or engage, we are increasingly being brainwashed by a rather recent kind of first world problem – i.e., the desire for blatant standardization. This problem has crept in everything we do. It’s the expectation that people will do as you prescribe them. We are being told what to eat, what to think, what to wear, where to go, what to do or what not to do. We are being told whom to love and whom to hate.
We have found a new profession of defining how an intelligent person should think, how a sensible person should speak, or how a self-aware person should look. If my personal choices and actions differ from yours then I am not good enough because the benchmark has been set.
Each of our choices from wherever they have stemmed are now under the scanner. For example, a certain person believes in the gods of his religion then he must be from a regressive background. A person hasn’t experienced certain things in life then he must be having old-school thinking. A person wears a certain kind of clothes then she must be looking for validation. A person likes nice pictures of hers then she must be empty from inside.
Someone’s desire to be around a lot of people doesn’t mean he or she is an attention seeker. It could also mean the person feels good around people. Someone not wanting to go out doesn’t mean he is a loner, it could also mean he is tired that day or tired of all the noise. If we do something different from what’s been stereotyped, then we are being labeled.
When will we understand all our actions are result of experiences
and realities that are very personalized?
We all have such different mix of experiences be it in our upbringing, education, job, and relationships, that makes us perceive everything differently. All of us. Something right for me doesn’t necessarily mean it is right for you. Something which you don’t approve must not be something which I won’t do. It has come to such that one person blaming the other of imposing his thinking is himself doing the same. He is angry why his thoughts are not taken as an influence. Why the other person is thinking differently! This is happening in every walks of our lives.
All the varied tests and trials that we have gone through are now been asked to be locked up inside a tiny compartment in our brain, and we will have to do what’s been conventionalized by the thinkers. The only polite and little ask is you are not supposed to think or decide or speak. If you want their acceptance, then you should follow what they say. I would end this by saying…
Let there be choice. Let there be reasoning that are personal and valid. To each his own.
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